You're Not Done Yet

You're Not Done Yet

5 Ways to Mentor Others

Are you finishing up your term, heading toward that magic age which society says is the finish line, or just closing a particular chapter? Are you experiencing a change in your life? Maybe your children have flown the coop, or your spouse is no longer living. Or maybe someone else has taken over a leadership role that was yours.  

So now you think you’re done.

Well, God sees things differently.

As Paul stated to the Philippians, God wants to complete the good work He started in you:

“being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ” – Philippians 1:6

And if you find you are no longer called to “do” the work you used to do, then consider the power and impact of influencing others who could benefit by your knowledge and experience.

The power of influence

Leadership is not about position or title.  It’s about influence.  Jesus is our perfect example, and we would do well to study and model how He influenced others.

“Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill.” – Matthew 5:17

No matter your age or change in life circumstances, you should always be looking for the opportunity to influence others the way Jesus did.

The question is: Are you influencing well?

Are your attempts to influence others making a difference for the better? Does your influence lead others to know Jesus better, and ideally bring them closer to Him?

The question is: Are you influencing well?

If you find yourself walking around with a sad face, or mumbling or grumbling about the state of affairs - STOP!  Ask God instead how you can help positively influence those around you.

Remember, you don’t need a title to lead like Jesus. But you do need to recognize that you’re not done yet.

One way to positively influence others is by sharing what God has taught you over the years, or what is commonly referred to as mentoring.

You can positively influence others by sharing what God has taught you.

5 ways to mentor others

Many great leaders continue mentoring others long after their titles are gone and their leadership roles have been disbanded or given to others. Maybe you’ve found yourself in a similar spot – or perhaps you can see it coming.

Here are 5 ways you can mentor others:

  1. Listen and observe. You don’t need a title to observe and listen well. A good mentor invests the time to truly understand situations and motivations. They also listen especially for what is not said. And if you’re used to doing more talking than listening, use James 1:19, My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry … as your guide to change.
  2. Ask questions that challenge growth. When it’s time to share out of your experiences, ask questions instead of lecturing.  Try thought-provoking questions that cause others to ponder deeply, and ideally leads them to self-discovery of what you have already learned. This form of mentoring makes a tremendous and lasting impact.
  3. Be encouraging. The late Truett Cathy, Chick-fil-A founder, is quoted as having said,

    “Who needs encouragement? Everyone who is breathing.” Encouragement is made up of five key ingredients that actively build up others. You can learn the details about them in this Lead Like Jesus post.
  4. Support with your actions. Let go of your pride, and instead exalt God only, making Him the sole audience of your life. If you’re in a church then sing in the choir or chorus, greet visitors at the door, beautify the space, pull out the vacuum and clean, and visit those who are stuck in a hospital, home or are incarcerated. The activity is not the point – your support within that activity is what matters. Your actions here speak louder than words.
  5. Pray for and with others. Be an intercessor. When you pray for and with others there is so much strength provided in ways you’ll never be able to measure. It’s God who does the work, but you get to be the conduit.

However you choose to mentor, consider the admonishment Apostle Paul wrote to Titus:

“But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.” -- Titus 2: 1-8

For some, this might appear too difficult. But you do NOT need to be perfect to mentor others. You just need to share out of the abundance  with which God has blessed you. When you do this, you’ll discover it not only benefits others, but you as well.

This is also when you’ll recognize that you’re not done yet!

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Robert and Lori Ferguson

Robert & Lori Ferguson are best friends who have been married for 30-plus years. Their mission is to encourage husbands and wives to lead meaningful lives. Read more at EncourageYourSpouse.com.