Love is the Answer. What's the Question?

Love is the Answer. What's the Question?

No matter what the question, love is the answer. Always.

Jesus made this very clear [Matthew 22:36-40]:

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

We know this. But knowing something doesn’t mean we always apply it.

Think about your many relationships – spouse to spouse, parent to child, adult child to aging parent, co-worker to co-worker, employer to employee, and more. Each of these relational interactions will find themselves needing an answer to a myriad of questions in an innumerable set of circumstances.  

With this view, some might say that love can’t always be the answer. Consider this again.

When Love is the Answer…

In the Lead Like Jesus Encounter, participants explore pride and fear with their respective antidotes of humility and God-grounded confidence when confronted with various situations in life. These topics are covered under the “Heart” section of the Encounter.

Ah yes, the heart. This is viewed as the source of our love.

Just think of the one-day in February dedicated to heart-shaped chocolates, mushy cards, and over-the-top gestures of love. Are you nodding (or groaning)? Regardless if you observe this commercial holiday, or not, this is a time period where the Western world culture can use the word “love” with abandon and feel warm and gooey.  (Which is not all bad!)

Now, suppose you adopted this LOVE idea all year long…

Love is the answer to the questions you have with your spouse.

Marriage is hard. The interactions between a husband and wife are just as susceptible, as in any other relationship, to tripping over pride and fear. Ah, but we remember those beautiful words about love from 1 Corinthians 13: “it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” Right?

Yes. Love is the answer when you’re feeling envious of your spouse as they’re leaving the house. Or you’re envious that they can stay at home with the kids. One is headed for a day filled with stimulating adult conversations and the other is blessed to be at home with poopy diapers and the temper of a two-year-old who is fond of the word “NO”.

Love is the answer on both sides of that equation, because the opposite of envy is humility, generosity, and kindness.  Imagine responding to every spousal question with those character qualities!

Love is the answer to the questions you have with everyone who could be considered your neighbor.

Of course, your spouse is your closest neighbor – but let’s look a bit farther. Children in your home, or grown children could be identified as neighbors. Those you work for and with are your neighbors, along with everyone you meet during the day. Even your long lost relatives are your neighbors.

Yes. Love is the answer when responding to any type of neighbor.

Love is the answer even to the questions you pose to yourself.

As Karen McGuire wrote:

So, how much do you love yourself? Not the ego-centric kind of love but the honest-to-goodness kind of love that helps me treat myself well in all circumstances. In what I eat, where I go, with whom I associate, the decisions I make, where and how I live, and more!

Love was Jesus’ answer to every question. It is also the answer to all our questions.

Love was Jesus’ answer to every question.

To lead like Jesus we must also learn to love like Jesus.



Robert and Lori Ferguson

Robert & Lori Ferguson are best friends who have been married for 30-plus years. Their mission is to encourage husbands and wives to lead meaningful lives. Read more at