Joyous Envy

Joyous Envy

“Oh, I wish I could play the piano like you do!” How many times have I heard this comment over the years?

“But I’ll bet you wouldn’t want to spend all of the hours in lessons and practicing,” is my usual response. And then we both smile in the recognition that their envy is actually a joyous expression of an appreciation for my musical gift.

The Bible tells us not to covet, not to scheme so that we benefit from another’s loss (Ex.20:17). Jealousy is all part of this. We’re also instructed over and over in the New Testament not to let jealousy and envy destroy our relationships (1 Cor. 13:4; Gal. 5:26; James 3:16). Jesus Himself includes envy when He warns us about what can ruin our inward nature (Mark 7:21-23).

Unfortunately, instead of being grateful for what we have, we too often look outward at what others seem to have in abundance. Sometimes we go so far as to inwardly celebrate when their good fortune takes a downturn. We all struggle at times to cheer on someone who is successful, who has talents and accomplishments we are envious of, or who seems to be lacking in nothing.

The Lord Jesus challenges us to take a different view. Recognizing that it’s God who gives us the gifts and talents we possess, we should neither be prideful in our use of those gifts nor strike out in jealousy when someone else is blessed with what we’re lacking. Tearing down someone else to make ourselves look better is never a solid path to achieving lasting goals.

Instead we should cultivate joyous envy in ourselves and our relationships. My husband is one who has seemingly mastered this gift. Oh, there were times when he’d wistfully comment about a classmate’s financial success while we were struggling in our early years of ministry. But over the years, even when we were dating, he has always been my biggest cheerleader when it came to things he couldn’t do. I saw this attitude in his interactions with others; his self-deprecating comments on his own limitations while genuinely encouraging others in their abilities.

Cultivating joyous envy in ourselves is the first step. Appreciating how the Lord has gifted others without whining about what we don’t have is the hallmark of a confident leader. Certainly there are multitalented people who seem to “have it all.” But that’s not really true. We all have our limitations, and we need to acknowledge them and recognize our need for others to step in to cover our shortcomings.

Appreciate how the Lord has gifted others!

The confident leader, who at the same time is humble, is truly leading like our model boss, Jesus. That leader recognizes that everyone is gifted in some way. Everyone has something they can add to the mix.

That leader recognizes that everyone is gifted.

And as managers and bosses who lead like Jesus, we take the time to not only notice, but celebrate the unique contributions and gifts of each of our staff.  If a leader is sure to spread the recognition around instead of singling out the obvious star performers, then jealous envy will be stifled.

The Employee of the Month honor has been around for ages. But why stop there? A leader who wants a staff or company to support one another in a natural, ongoing manner has the capability and liberty to be spontaneous instead of waiting to give someone his turn at recognition.

Those leaders who notice their staff and genuinely appreciate their excellence can create an atmosphere of celebration that naturally springs forth in conversations. There is no need to wait for a special occasion. There is no need to stifle the joy. As Paul has said, “If one part is honored, every part rejoices with it” 1 (Cor 12:26b).

A leader who leads like Jesus cultivates this ongoing celebration of one another. What a marvelous privilege it is to be part of an organization led by such joy!




Christine Vogelsang

Christine Vogelsang is a teacher, musician, pastor’s wife, and mother of three adult children. For almost forty years her family enjoyed the love of congregations in Tennessee, Arkansas, and Southern California. She has earned her master’s degree in education, taught at various schools (from kindergarten to college) and served as music director for twenty-five years at their last church.

While writing and speaking about the joy of being God’s child has always been a part of her life, it wasn’t until her weekly inspirational blogs ( gained an international following that Christine decided to publish her first book. She has also written and produced three plays about people and events in the Gospels that bring these ancient stories to life.

Christine and her husband have retired from full time church work; however, her blog ministry continues to grow. She recently completed her Restoring the Joy: Leaving My Guilt at the Cross book series (available through Amazon) and is scheduling more speaking engagements that highlight her spiritual passion: joy without guilt!