Communicating in Styles

Communicating in Styles

Mark demands details. Jennifer seems passive. Susan’s desk is never clean. Isn’t funny how we notice these things about people, but never think about why they do the things they do?

God has certainly created us uniquely in His image. Some of us are organized and some still can’t find that report from two years ago. Maybe you find yourself at the center of the conversation or perhaps you’re observing from afar. Our personality traits and behaviors effect our daily lives and impact how we communicate and interact with those around us.

God has certainly created us uniquely

So, if everyone is born with varying natural tendencies, how can we learn how to communicate well with each other? 

There are many tools that help guide the process of understanding ourselves more; one of them is DISC. The DISC model of human behavior uses four categories to illustrate patterns: Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness.

Tips to Remember

Regardless of your natural tendencies, communicating with others is a vital part of life. Here are some tips for communicating well with all four personality styles:

High D’s: Here you’ll find your problem solvers and decision makers. Naturally, they enjoy challenges, independence and results. When communicating with D’s:

  • Stick to the big picture
  • Keep it brief and to the point
  • Let them take the lead and maintain control if possible

High I’s: Being an ‘I’ is all about relationships. Social environments provide the right setting for their friendly, freedom of expression. When communicating with I’s:

  • Keep conversation relaxed and calm
  • Give verbal approval
  • Help them transfer talk into an action plan

High S’s: Those with this style are calm and consistent with an easygoing mentality. They are ready to help and value sincere appreciation. When communicating with S’s:

  • Make allowances for family or team
  • Allow them time to process information and adjust to change
  • Provide hands-on reinforcement and genuine thanks

High C’s: Organization and clarified focus is the driving force behind this style. They are careful thinkers that value accuracy and quality. When communicating with C’s:

  • Be specific and clear with instruction
  • Provide examples and step by step guides
  • Remain tactful and be patient since C’s need some time to process

What was Jesus’ behavioral style?

Lead Like Jesus now offers Biblical DISC which incorporates biblical analysis to help you uncover your behavioral style while showing you how Jesus modeled each behavioral trait perfectly.

The Biblical DISC Assessment matches your behavioral style to the style of biblical characters to show how they interacted with one another and how Jesus interacted and communicated with each one perfectly.

How can you use it? It helps you leverage your God-given strengths and improve natural weaknesses. It also provides insight into how others ‘tick’ so you can better lead and minister to them.

leverage your God-given strengths

Learn more about Biblical DISC and how you can better understand how God created you and others.

So, what’s your behavioral style? How can you utilize your style when communicating with others?


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Chelsea Arrington